Gift Giving Dilemma

Author: Ashley

17 Mar

What is a good birthday gift for someone who is laid off?

My brother in law is currently laid off and his birthday just passed. Under normal circumstances we would have gotten him an actual gift for about $25 or so. My husband had a gift picked out for him. Something for his Playstation I believe, I’m really not sure. Anyways, it just seemed so frivolous. But at the same time I felt kinda bad giving him a gift card to the grocery store, or something equally practical.

On one hand we wanted to use this opportunity to help them out with something they actually need. On the other hand, we know he won’t be buying anything for himself for a long time and it is his birthday. I know I would have a hard time getting something for myself if I was worried about supporting my family. But everyone is different and maybe they are ok. His wife works, and I certainly don’t know every detail of their financial situation.

We went back and forth a dozen times. In the end, we got him a $50 gift card to someplace where he could either buy himself something, buy his family something, or both. We spent twice as much as we would have normally but that way he can get what he wants and still put some towards groceries if he wants. Or if they are really worried about bills then we helped out a little extra. Or he can get himself something extra good for his birthday… which is fine too.

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5 Responses for "Gift Giving Dilemma"

Miss M March 17th, 2009 at 7:21 am 1
I have the same dilemma sometimes, something practical or something fun? For gifts I usually prefer the fun choice but when times are tough, the practical route can give more pleasure. I think you picked a good option, they know their needs better than you. Sorry BIL is out of work, hope he finds something sooner rather than later.
Trevor @ Financial Nut March 17th, 2009 at 10:39 am 2
Good choice. What a tough position to be in!
Mrs. Money March 17th, 2009 at 4:05 pm 3
I think that was a great choice! And how nice that you did more than you usually do.
J. Money March 17th, 2009 at 4:32 pm 4
ooooh, def. an interesting topic! and i have noooo idea what to tell ya either……just that it’s the thought that counts for whatever that’s worth.
Saver in the City March 18th, 2009 at 5:57 pm 5
I think what you did was the perfect compromise! I know some PF bloggers have a problem with gift cards but I personally love getting them because I have the choice of whether I want to be frivolous or practical in how I spend it. Usually it’s a combination of both and that may be what your brother-in-law decides to do as well. This way, you’ve left the decision up to him without making him feel uncomfortable or embarrassed.