An honest look at family finances
11 Feb
There’s been a lot of baby talk in the personal finance blogsphere lately. I don’t really know why. But never one to let the talk of babies pass me by I can’t help but contribute. Four Pillars recently made a list of essential baby items. The mother in me will not let me pass this by. Must. Join. In.
The bottom line when it comes to baby stuff is that the cheap stuff might not be as cute, but it’s just as good. The standards they have in place when it comes to baby equipment are very high. Even the lower end stuff is going to be just as safe as the high end stuff. So when in doubt, go cheaper.
1. Car seat: At first you will probably want an infant car seat. Those are the ones with the handle that you can snap in and out of the car. Totally essential if you ask me. Life is so much easier when you can set your baby down for a second, or move them into the house when they fall asleep in the car. And I know babies with acid reflux often sleep much better in their infant seat.
When they out grow the infant seat you will need a regular car seat. For our son, we went middle of the road for our car seat and I like it a lot. For my daughter, I bought the cheapest car seat on the market cause I was broke back then. It worked just fine. It’s not as cozy, but I have no doubts it’s just as safe.
2. Clothes/ blankets: Do not buy these. You will be given more clothes and blankets than you will know what to do with. Seriously. In the rare event you are ready to pop and no one you know has given you clothes then go buy about 10 onsies and some socks. Maybe some cozy, elastic top pants if it’s chilly. Your baby will out grow clothes weekly for a while. Save your money on the cute stuff for now.
3. Crib: Not being a fan of the family bed, I can’t live without a crib. I got a lower end crib when my daughter was born and both my kids used it. It got about 5 years worth of use and is still going strong. You don’t need a $400 crib. You just don’t. Also, get 4 or 5 sets of sheets and some water proof pads.
4. Bottles: Again, you don’t need the expensive ones. My son was a little picky about which nipple he liked and we ended up switching to a new brand at about 6 months old. Since you don’t know what your baby is going to like it’s better not to go out and buy $50 worth of expensive bottles.
5. Pacifiers: If you plan on using them then buy a few different brands. Babies can be very picky about them. My daughter loved her paci and didn’t care about the kind. My son could take it or leave it, but if he wanted it there was only one brand that would do.
6. Gripe Water: You know, the drops that help the gas bubbles move through. My son was colicky and this stuff helped tremendously. One of his first nights home my husband went out at 2 am to buy some. For $3 it’s worth having some on hand ahead of time. Generic works just fine. If you don’t end up needing it then you wasted $3, sorry. But if you do, you will send me a hand written thank you letter.
7. Diaper Bag: You will need one of these if you plan to leave the house ever. Go ahead and get something cute, but don’t spend a fortune. It will get ruined no matter how hard you try. The things that will be put into this bag will gross you out. Don’t make yourself put a dirty diaper or puke cloth into a $200 bag. Buy cheap so you can replace it often.
8. Stroller: You can get the “travel system” that has the infant car seat and the stroller that fit together. I have mixed feelings about the stroller. I guess you kinda need one cause there are times when you just can’t get around it. On the other hand they are so expensive and it seems like you could get through life without one. But either way, I had and used one with both kids so I guess they are essential.
9. Pack and Play: At first we used it in our room when our son was a newborn so he could be close. Then we moved it downstairs and used it as a changing table, jail, laundry basket, toy collector, ect. Once he outgrow that then we used it for the intended method of a crib when we traveled. He finally outgrew it on our recent trip to Disneyland.
Wait and see items:
1. Boppy: Had one, never used it.
2. Bumper Pads: You know, the soft things that go around the crib bars. Newborns don’t really move around much so you won’t need them right away. You will have a chance to see if you have a wiggly sleeper or not before you spend the cash. I know those matching crib sets are adorable, but they aren’t worth the money. Not by a long shot.
3. High chair: I so wanted the high chair that matched my swing. So so wanted it. But it cost twice as much as the generic high chair and I just couldn’t bring myself to spend the money. I got the generic and never looked back. It was so much easier to clean than the expensive one and really, once it’s covered in mashed carrots who cares if it has ducks on it or not.
4. Jumperoo: Love it!! My son adored his jumperoo. He would still like it if he could fit in it. This was a must have with him. But I don’t think this is an item you should buy before you know your baby. Once you get to know them you will be able to tell if this is a toy they will like. Besides, they won’t be using it for a while anyways.
5. Swing: Neither of my kids cared for the swing. This is also an item I recommend waiting to buy until you have met your baby. You will be able to tell if your baby needs item. They are expensive and HUGE, so try to avoid buying if you can.
Well, I think that’s the big stuff. It’s by no means a comprehensive list. Most items fall into the wait and see category. Newborns don’t need very much. They are happy as long as they are warm, dry, fed, and cuddled.
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12 Responses for "Essential Baby Items"
Thanks for this post! It’s amazing what babies “need” these days! We have done quite well keeping it simple. I suggest going to a gently used or consignment shop. We bought a fantastic crib there for $60 — and it’s been great. Additionally, you can usually find clothing and toys in good condition at such places. One thing we did was get a chair that sits on a regular chair — no high chair. It can tip slightly back for infants, and it has a removable tray. At the toddler stage, it acts as a booster.
Since I have twins we had to be extremely frugal since we had to buy 2 of everything. We bought $100 cribs which have been great so far. We started with the graco infant seats (a true life saver for shopping with infant twins) and then bought britax car seats. We went super cheap and bought cheap seats for my husband to drive the girls back and forth to daycare 2 days a week and we hate those seats. It was definitely worth the extra $ for the britax. I agree with Miranda about the consignment thing. I started consigining my girls stuff at a local consignment sale 2x a year and I am selling used clothing in excellent condition cheap. I definitely take advantage of these sales for my own girls and most of their stuff these days is consigned clothing that they ruin in daycare anyway. My girls loved the bouncy jumperoo things too and also hated the swings (biggest waste of money if they hate it - best investment if they like it). I know that there is so much stuff we bought that we just ended up returning or consigned because we just didn’t use it. Babies need far less than Babies R Us wants you to believe! LOL!
THANKS! I love this list. As my husband and I are trying right now, I’ve had baby on my mind, and was wondering if there was a list out there. What would also be interesting would be to see a list of all the stuff that you have for baby that never got used.
As for the previous posts - what are the laws for buying baby stuff used? I think (at least in michigan) that you are not allowed to resell a car seat. Not that that would stop a garage sale, but in regards to actual thrift / consignment shops, I don’t think its legal. I’m not sure if that law extends out to things such as cribs…?
In the consignment sale I have sold in we are not allowed to sell car seats. I am not sure if that is a federal law or just a liability issue since there is no way to tell if its been in an accident. You can buy them on craigs list etc but its probably not a good idea unless you know the person personally. As for the cribs, that is not a problem but its important to know about crib recalls and such. Our cribs that we have have had a recent recall due to some tab at the bottom that we still need to get fixed before we sell them (probably next year). We have had no problem with them but I would never sell them without the fix. But I am sure there are others that would. Our sale also does not allow the selling of mattresses unless its with a crib. But that may be a space constraint rather than a law.
I did a few things differently with my newborn. First, we got a convertible car seat from the get-go. I can see the convenience of an infant seat (especially in winter!) but our seat has worked really well, and we’ll be able to use it for many years.
We didn’t get a stroller. Instead, we use slings and structured carriers. I love it! Less bulk, and it’s great to have him so close, not to mention it’s easier to nurse in public without anyone knowing what’s up.
We don’t have any bottles since I’m exclusively breastfeeding. I have a borrowed pump, but I hate it so I don’t bother.
I have 2 diaper bags: One larger one that I got on ebay, and the other from the hospital. I’m looking for a large purse that I can use as a diaper bag, but I haven’t found one I like y et.
We love our pack n play as well. Oh, and we bought a swing when our baby was 2 weeks old. It’s a good place to keep him occupied when I need to set him down for a little while.
When our first girl moved from infant carseat to convertible car seat, we splurged and bought two nice Britax seats. They both broke (different problems) within two years. However, to Britax’s credit, with a simple phone call, they replaced them both no questions asked and free of charge. Not sure if a cheaper seat would have had the same results, but Britax definitely stands by their seats. We loved them so much, we bought two more for our second daughter. $1100 worth of car seats later we couldn’t be happier.
As for some of the other stuff, yeah, people usually way overestimate how much they’ll need. Ashley’s right on about the clothes and blankets. But…remember that your kids will only be young once. So, being frugal doesn’t mean you shouldn’t enjoy it while it lasts. And, yes, this includes spending a little on your new bundle of joy! Just try to keep it in moderation.
This is a solid list. But I’d add one thing - it all depends on your lifestyle! In our urban(ish) ‘hood, I rely on a Baby Bjorn for the first few months, followed by a jogging stroller. (Yes, a jogging stroller in the city. The cargo basket is big enough for groceries and the no-joke wheels are necessary for negotiating sidewalks without curb cuts and the like.)
But my friend in the ‘burbs never even opened her Baby Bjorn and swore by her travel system.
No kids yet but hopefully some day. You mentioned the $200 diaper bag. My close friend from college had a baby in June and she was dying for a storksak. Well she used to cover me (dinner, drinks etc) when I was poor so I wanted her to have the bag she was coveting. It was a ridiculous amount of money, but it made her happy. Everything else was about the baby, the bag was more for her.
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Good list! I agree with Abby, a sling is well worth the price in the city!
Times have changed though. Because of SIDS, doctors recommend NO bumpers in the crib. Save your money on those for something else! Here’s a couple articles from a quick google search:
http://babyproducts.about.com/od/recallsandsafety/a/bumpersafety.htm
http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2007/09/070918165353.htm
I have 2 kids. They’re 10 years apart. It was a surprise to me with my second because buying the bedding for my first was so fun. Better to be safe than sorry.
BTW, love love love your blog.
Travel System graco it is GREAT!!!
I haven’t used it yet, but my husband and I have put it together.
Its light.. the instruction where easy to read and follow.
Thus far, I am pleased.
hi! i do not have baby yet but i think i won’t forget about this post in the future,, i agree with you about the swing, i have a baby niece and ahe only used the swing for a few months.. thanks for this blog,
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